How to Find Your Passion
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Do you know how to find your passion?

What are YOU passionate about in your life?

What makes a woman attractive is a woman who is PASSIONATE -- and, NO, I'm not just talking about the bedroom! LOL (More on that in another section. Link coming soon!)

Passion is that excitement, enthusiasm and zeal you have for something in your life. It is those things that you can lose yourself for hours in and when you do them, you get a sense of well-being and strength.


What men find most attractive in a woman is passion, as well as authenticity, self confidence and receptivity to what they have to offer. Men are so excited and turned on when a woman talks about something she is passionate about -- THEY actually get a sense of well-being from it!

They want to know that we have interests outside of them -- something that moves us and fills our soul and makes us happy. Most importantly, knowing how to find your passion in your own life keeps you from losing yourself in the relationship and, it keeps your batteries charged and gets you out of bed in the morning.

When you know how to find your passion and live with passion, not only are you more attractive (to EVERYONE!) and you maintain your sense of balance in a relationship, but you live your life on purpose. You have a sense of doing good work and you are excited about how you fill your day. You feel healthier, less stressed, and work feels like play. Your life feels fun, entertaining, easy and interesting!

So... how do you find your passion and what are you passionate about?

If you are like most women I know, you might not have a CLUE how to find your passion. Sure, there are things you like, things you enjoy, but things you are passionate about?

Or, maybe you are saying, "But I'm too busy with life/work and I don't have time to add anything else. Who has time for passion?"

Ok, take heart. It's not that tough. If you want to know how to find your passion, the easiest way I've found is to take The Passion Test. You can buy the book on Amazon or take the test online at The Passion Test (link opens in a new window).

The basic premise of The Passion Test (How to Find Your Passion) is to ask this question:

What will I be, do and/or have when my life is IDEAL?

So, you close your eyes and picture your ideal life...

  • What are you doing?
  • Who are you with?
  • Where are you?
  • How do you feel?

How to find your passion: write out 10-15 or more things you would be, do or have when your life is ideal. And remember that passions are how you live your life; goals are things you achieve. They are not the same thing. You might be passionate about enjoying vibrant health. A goal is to lose 20 lbs.

Want some sample ideas for finding your passion. Here are what some people said from The Passion Test about what they were passionate about:

  • Living in a beautiful home in which I feel completely at peace
  • Working in a nurturing environment with lots of plants and light
  • Having fun in everything I do
  • Enjoying perfect health with lots of energy, stamina, and vitality
  • Working with a supportive team of people who share my values
  • Helping people live their vision
  • Be available to my children when they need support

Questions to ask to give you some more ideas on how to find your passion:

  • What do I love to do?
  • What kind of environment do I love to be in?
  • What kind of people do I love to be around?
  • What excites me, turns me on, gets me charged up?

The book goes on to say, "When you are clear, what you want will show up in your life, but only to the extent that you are clear". To get more clarity on how to find your passion, once you have made this list of 10 to 15 items, you are going to narrow it down to your top 5.

You learn how to find your passion by asking if you had to choose between having the first thing you are passionate about on your list and the second, which would you choose? (And if you get stuck, ask, "If I could be, do or have 1 and never do 2, or if I could be 2 and never be, do or have 1, which one matters most to me?) Then take that choice and compare it to the next item on the list and ask which one you would choose. Do this down your page until you have your number 1 passion. Then start again and compare each item that remains until you get to the bottom of the list and have your next passion. Start again at the top and work your way to the bottom 3 more times until you have your top 5 passions.

Once you have discovered how to find your passion, write this list and post it someplace that you will see it often. Add at the bottom, "I intend for this or something better!"

Here are mine, for example:

When my life is ideal, I am:

  1. Having an amazing, passionate, sexually fulfilling, affectionate, fun relationship with the man of my dreams!

  2. Having lots of fun, laughing a lot, making others laugh, finding joy and feeling joyful in everything I do!

  3. Enjoying perfect health in a sexy, strong body with tons of energy and vibrancy!

  4. Enjoying lots of free time to do the things I love (like personal growth work, spending time in nature, spending quality time with friends, taking good care of myself and playing with babies)!

  5. Being an uplifter, helping people get happy, and helping women attract the man of their dreams!

And you don't have to know HOW these will come about. Whenever you have a choice to make, a decision, or an opportunity, just ask yourself, "Am I choosing in favor of my passions?"

Just choose in favor of your passions and let the Universe and the Law of Attraction cooperate all the components to make it happen. And, if you start to have any negative thoughts, like "I don't have time for passion", etc. talk back to your harsh inner voice and read my page on how to do that.

Here's an example of the Law of Attraction in my own life: I read and completed The Passion Test at the beginning of January 2009 and I felt great about it. Whenever possible, I chose (and still do) in favor of what I am passionate about -- I would choose to hit the gym instead of watching another hour of TV (my #2 passion of a sexy, strong body), I made sure that when I had free time I did things I loved (like #4 spending time in nature, etc.), I'd make sure to make time to laugh with friends, date, etc. but I wasn't sure how I would "be an uplifter and help women attract the man of their dreams" but I decided to let the Universe figure it out for me...

One day in the middle of March 2009, I was taking a walk with my friend and fellow Law of Attraction Coach, Andrea Sholer (link to her site opens in a new window) and she was telling me how excited she was about her new website and the program she was using (that, ironically, I thought she would be interested in and had sent HER the information about a few months before!) and Ding Ding Ding, it hit me THAT THAT was how I was going to do it! I wanted to do a website!

The Universe coordinated the ENTIRE thing -- me receiving a personal development newsletter that mentioned Site Build It (link opens in a new window) and then me feeling inspired to send it to her thinking she might be interested in it, her deciding to use it and then attracting her own great experience of it, and then the timing of her telling me about it... to inspire my own!

That is TRULY Law of Attraction IN ACTION!!!

Since then, I pop out of bed and jump onto my computer and I love every minute of writing and working on this website or helping my individual clients with one-on-one coaching... it truly feels like passion!

When you are clear about what you want and take this piece of dating advice and discover how to find your passion, the Universe will line things up for you that you will feel inspired by, exactly like this.

When you know how to find your passion, if you consistently choose in favor of what you are passionate about, you will be more aligned with what you truly love, you will feel happier and more fulfilled and you will be more attractive to those you love and cherish... and, yes, you will attract what you want, and, because you live a life of passion, you will be very attractive to the man of your dreams!

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